Individual Therapy

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Strengthen your relationship with yourself

At Integrative Couples Therapy, although our primary focus is relationships, we also offer individual therapy for those who want support in their personal growth.

Some people begin individual therapy because their relationship feels stuck and their partner is not ready to participate. Some are recovering from betrayal or painful relationships and need their own space for healing. Others are moving through separation or divorce and trying to find their footing again. Many are trying to find a sense of serenity as they navigate the pull of marriage, family, parenting, career, and health.

We understand that your inner world and relationships are deeply connected. In our work together, we create a grounded and supportive space where you can explore what is happening inside of you, make sense of actions, or states of being, that feel hard to shift. Ultimately we want to help you strengthen your capacity for clarity, connection, and wellbeing within yourself and with others.

Our Approach

We are a team of relationship specialists with training in Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy and attachment-based therapy. Our focus is on helping you understand yourself more deeply. We pay attention to the patterns that show up in how you interact with others and protect yourself. We help you understand how those patterns formed, while highlighting your agency and resilience, empowering you to develop inner strength and healthy relationships.

In therapy, you will uncover what keeps pulling you into the same conflicts or distance, and find new ways of responding to challenges in life that are more aligned with your ideal self. We will explore both the emotional and practical aspects of your life, so the changes you make are meaningful and sustainable.

What to Expect from Individual Therapy

At Integrative Couples Therapy you will find individual therapy to be compassionate, focused, and collaborative. Your therapist will not judge you or tell you what to do. Instead, they will help you understand yourself and your relationships more clearly so that you can move through life with intention.

You will have space to:

  • Understand the patterns that keep you stuck

  • Work on your relationship even if your partner is not attending couples therapy with you

  • Engage in therapy from an attachment and nervous system lens

  • Heal from betrayal or other relationship wounds

  • Understand your attachment style and how early experiences shape your patterns in the present

  • Learn to slow down big emotions and behaviors and respond in ways that are more intentional

  • Gain clarity about your needs, values, hopes, and dreams

  • Move through loss, seperation, or divorce with support

Sessions are typically fifty or eighty minutes and are available in person at our Encinitas office or virtually throughout California. Many people begin with weekly sessions yet we will work together to find a rhythm that supports your goals.

We welcome all individuals regardless of relationship status, gender identity, sexual orientation, or background. Our therapists are LGBTQ plus affirming and experienced in working with clients from a wide range of cultural and relational contexts.

Frequently Asked Questions

Can individual therapy really help my relationship if my partner will not come?

If your goal is to strengthen your relationship, we recommend couples therapy. Yet, we understand that couples therapy is not always an option. Therefore, individual therapy can help you create meaningful change in your relationship even when your partner is not involved. When you shift how you show up, and respond differently, the dynamic between you and your partner shifts as well.

What if I am not sure whether I want to stay in my relationship?

Individual therapy is an excellent place to explore this question. We will not tell you what to do or advise you on what decision to make. We will help you gain clarity about what you need, what matters most to you, and what your options are. Therapy can help you move toward a choice that feels right for you, whether that means staying and working on the relationship or leaving with intention and care. Or, it can help you create authentic inner peace and acceptance.

How long will I need individual therapy?

This depends on your goals and what you are working on. Some people come to therapy for several months to work through a specific issue. Others choose to stay longer to continue growing and understanding themselves. Your therapist will check in regularly to ensure the work is aligned with your goals.

Can you help me if abuse is present in my relationship?

If there is violence, coercive control, ongoing psychological abuse, financial control, or sexual harm in your relationship, couples therapy is not appropriate and can unintentionally increase risk. In situations where abuse is present, we recommend individual therapy and connection to specialized services. Individual therapy is confidential and creates the space for you to speak freely and think clearly. We can help you assess what is happening, explore your options, develop a safety plan if needed, and link you with trusted community resources. If you are in immediate danger, please call 911. You can also contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or visit thehotline.org for confidential support. Please note that leaving an abusive relationship can be dangerous; this is why it is critical that you receive specialized support.

Next Steps

Whether your relationship feels strained, or are moving through transitions, individual therapy can help you find clarity and wellbeing. When you are ready to take the next step, we are here to support you. Contact us to get started, and we will help match you with the therapist who is the best fit for your needs.