It can be easy to lose sight of your relationship when you are raising a family. In the early months after having a baby, for many new parents, everything is a blur. Between feedings, sleep deprivation and recovering from birth, you may struggle to feel like the same couple you were before. The smallest things, such as, who gets up with the baby, how to soothe them, or when to ask for help, can feel strained.

As kids grow, so do the challenges. You might notice that the distance between you and your partner widens as the demands of daily life take over. One of you might be more structured, and the other more flexible. You may disagree about discipline, screen time, how to handle a child’s big feelings, or how to best support a struggling teen or young adult. Or maybe you have misunderstandings when it comes to chores, time spent engaging with the children, and division of household duties. Or it could be that challenges with your parents, adult children, extended family, in-laws, or former spouses are impacting you and you want to address this effectively.

For many people, these kinds of difficulties may stay below the surface for years until something forces these issues to the surface. Then you realize, you need more support, and your family members may too.

At Integrative Couples Therapy, we can help you develop emotional regulation skills, parent as a team, strengthen family bonds, and cultivate better communication. We can assist you to work through challenges rather than avoiding them, or bottling things up until they explode. We work with couples, individuals, and families at every stage of life. We understand how overwhelming it can be to find the time and space to nurture your child or children, your romantic relationship, other family members, and yourself, all at once. We also know how transformative it is when you can carve out time to do so.

In therapy, we create a safe space for honest conversations. We help you notice the patterns you have fallen into without blame or criticism. We can guide you to understand how each of you is trying to cope with the stress of family life. We will help you to speak and listen in ways that build trust, even when emotions run high. Together, we help you return to a place where you feel more connected, more supported, and more able to face what life brings.

You do not have to wait for a crisis to begin therapy. We are here to help you create a strong and secure base, where your relationships become a source of soothing and support. When your family base is stronger, everything in life feels smoother.